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This week I helped Mr L from Gatley to make a decision that he had been wrestling with for months. Mr L had wanted to move back to London for a while but his thought process was plagued with ‘what ifs?’ which were causing him to shy away from what he wanted to do. 

We began our session by discussing what Mr L actually wanted to achieve and where he wanted to be in one years time. This enabled me gain a clear understanding of exactly which direction Mr L wanted his life to move in and also helped me to select the most appropriate equipped4life techniques to help him.

Mr L’s explanation made me realise that he needed his confidence levels boosting. I wanted to help him understand that although certain practical areas, such as accomodation needed addressing, there was nothing stopping him from following his heart. It was the battle between his heart and his head that was the main problem with Mr L’s though process. I challenged Mr L and asked him what the worst outcome could be if he did go to London and for some reason things didn’t work out. He replied by stating that he would come back up north, I then asked him how this would be a problem? Mr L then realised that this wouldn’t be a problem at all and that despite all of his anxieties about the move, his desire to live in London outweighed them all.

Mr L has since decided to take the leap of faith and feels confident about leaving Manchester. Our session made him feel more confident and realise that he can do anything that he wants to do and that he should follow his heart.

 I wish him every success in his new life in London.

There is always a wealth of articles in the press that are designed to inspire people to lose weight. They feature the latest diets and celebrity exercise regimes and promise to help you shift those unwanted pounds before summer and the inevitable, and often feared trip to the beach. However, a vast majority of these pieces are mainly aimed at women and there isn’t really much literature produced that is designed to help men beat the bulge. Although there are some men’s health magazines, these tend to focus on building muscle and not losing weight.

This week Mr N from Cheadle Hulme visited me as he, like many other men I have worked with, wanted to slim down in time for summer. He felt a little embarrassed about visiting me until I reassured him that his plight is extremely common amongst modern men. The way he spoke suggested that he felt that losing weight purley to improve his appearance was vain and almost feminine, so again I reiterated that many of my male clients want assistance with their weight. Once Mr N felt more comfortable we began our session.

Mr N explained to me that as a result to a knee injury several years ago he was no longer able to play rugby which he used to do at least 3 times a week prior to his accident. Stopping regular physical exercise had taken its toll on Mr N’s figure and he had started to feel very uncomfortable about the way he looked. Additionally he told me that he had started to snack on biscuits and cheese and crackers on a regular basis in the evening which was also contributing towards his expanding waistline.

 After discussing these points with Mr N, it became clear to me that Mr N had developed a snacking ‘habit’ and that he was not eating because he was hungry, he was simply eating for ’something to do’. Habits often cause feelings of guilt and upset but are extremely easy to break - after all, you created them so it is just as easy for me to help you to create a healthier, more compelling one. Mr N found this notion quite funny and was very eager to work with me to develop a ‘heatly habit’. This comical, positive feeling enabled me to discuss further suggestions with Mr N.

I explained to him the idea of a vicious circle and that he felt that he was putting on weight as he could no longer exercise and as a result of this he was comfort eating in the evening. By breaking the snacking habit we had broken the circle. Eating in the evening had make Mr N gain weight, so by breaking this habit his weight will eventually start to reduce.  

I then explained to Mr N that although he can no longer play rugby, he can still exercise, just in a different way. Walking and swimming are two fantastic forms of exercise that will not put too much strain on his knee but will help him to reduce his weight and maintain it.

After our session Mr N felt extremely positive and was looking forward to losing weight and many long afternoons on the beach.

This week Mr G from Failsworth made an appointment to see me. In September last year he split up from his long term partner and had experienced difficulty moving on and embracing new relationships.  He explained that although he had met someone new that he had ‘really connected with’ he continued to compare him to his ex and that this had a detrimental effect on the new relationship. In fact it was the catalyst that destroyed it.

Mr G has regretted this ever since it happened but ‘could not rectify’ the situation as he still had strong feelings for his ex dispite the fact that they were not reciprocated. This is obviously a very frustrating and even upsetting situation for anyone to be in.

 I started our session by asking Mr G exactly how he wanted to feel and how he would achieve this feeling of happiness. This was a difficult process for him as he continued to hold on to the ‘what if’ factor in his head and maintained that something deep inside of him prevented him from letting go to his past relationship. Once we had established this point I simply explained that the only thing stopping him from moving on was him! He was not getting over his ex as he did not want to and was unable to build up a new relationship as mentally he was still involed with his ex.

Mr G fully agreed with what I had said and this was a huge breakthrough for him. The first step to rehabilitation for an alcoholic is admitting they have a problem, similarly, the first step to moving on for Mr G was to acknowledge that only he was preventing himself from moving on. Heartbreak and unrequited feelings of love are two of the most painful feelings a person can go through, but, only you can control your emotions and if you can’t change a situation, change how you feel about it! This dictum really helped Mr G to understand that in fact, he could move on from his current situation but also made him realise that the emotions that his ex feels are entirely his perogative and regardless of any effort or affection that Mr G showed him, he would ultimately feel the way he wanted to.

Towards the end of our session I felt that Mr G was starting to understand the concept that reaching his optimum levels of happiness was entirely down to him. However, I also explained to him that people often miss many doors of new opportunity by staring for too long at a door that has closed. With this in mind, Mr G decided to contact the chap he had met after he split up from his ex to see if he fancied meeting for a drink….

 I wish him well

This week, Mrs L from Chorley visited me. She had recently discovered that her husband had been having an affair and that sadly he had decided that he no longer wanted to be with her. Mrs L discussed the huge range of emotions that she had felt since her husband had requested a divorce and that initially she felt shocked, then extremely upset, then angry, then confused etc. Despite the diverse range of emotions that she experienced, Mrs L commented that each of these feelings had the same outcome - she remained feeling upset.

At the start of our session Mrs L explained that being in a constant state of sadness had started to physically and mentally drain her and that although she was ‘mourning her marriage’ she missed felling happy. She also knew that she had to adopt a more positive outlook on life as her two children had started to notice her sombre mood.

 I started work with Mrs L by using equipped4life techniques that are designed to release negative emotion.  They help you to accept a bad situation but more importantly, move on from it without the negativity that it caused. We then did some confidence building exercises, during this part fo our session Mrs L commented that throughout her divorce and the pain that it had caused, she had almost forgotton that she is a whole person without her husband - she had become overly used to being half of a couple. This fantastic realisation made Mrs L feel empowered and gave her confidence levels a helpful push in the right direction.

 By the end of our session, Mrs L was feeling much more confident and had a brighter disposition. She had carried all of her negative emotion for too long and was more than ready to get rid of it. She had made this decision on her own, the equipped4life techniques that we used were merely the catalyst that helped her to reach her goal! Mrs L stated that she had felt such a positive release during our session and that she now accepted what had happened to her marriage but was looking forward to the future.

Sessions like this are wonderful, well done!

Hi All,

Mr M from Bramhall visited me this week. We met in February at a networking event and he decided to call me and see whether equipped4life techniques could help him. He was unsure about this as unlike the majority of the people I work with,  Mr M didn’t want to stop a habit or a change a negative emotion - he wanted to make a decision. This may seen a little obscure but milling decisions over in your head and never coming to a final conclusion can be extremely frustrating!

Mr M was unsure of what decison he wanted to make, however, he had decided that he wanted to resolve the situation he was in and actively wanted to find a solution - therefore equipped4life techniques were able to assit him.

Mr M explained to me that he felt very confused about several different decisions that he had to make regarding his work and family life and was worried about the ‘knock-on’ effects that each decision would have on people in his life.  He further explained that this resulted in him feeling guilty.

I started to discuss the concept of ‘choice’ with Mr M, just like it was entirely up to him to decide how he wants to live his life it is entirely up to him to decide how he feels about his decisions! Only he is in control of his emotions. He can not control the emotions of other people either, therefore I alerted him to the fact that regardless of what decisions he makes in life he can not control how other people react to them. Their reaction is their perogative after all.

Understanding this enabled Mr M to gain a little more clarity in his decision making. I asked him how he would like to feel after he had made his decision and he replied, ‘happy’. I then challenged him to tell me what decision he would have to make to end up ‘happy’. At this point Mr M was able to state the decision he wanted to make and was able to do so confidently and without any negative or guilty feelings.

I carried out some additional work with Mr M that focussed on addressing his unconscious mind - this technique again exacerbates feelings of clarity which are obviously extremely beneficial in the decision making process.

This session is a great example of how equipped4life techniques can be adapted and manipulated in a variety of ways to help people with more diverse requests.

Well done Mr M!

This week I worked with Mrs L from Stockport who discovered that after years of marriage, her husband had been having an affair. She found out 6 months ago and explained that although she is still devastated, she has started to feel able to move on. This was the reason that she visited me.

 At the start of our session, Mrs L discussed her feelings of self-doubt and explained that she had lost a lot of her inner confidence. She felt completely let down and betrayed and had even started to question herself and was worried that she was somehow to blame. Her main concern were her three children, she didn’t want to hold on to any of the negative emotions that she had been carrying any more as she feared that her children would start to be effected by it.

Mrs L had already made a positive decision to make a change in her life so we were able to conduct some really great work. I started by using equipped4life techniques that are designed to boost confidence levels. I did this as I felt that once Mrs L’s confidence was restored she would be able to have a more positive and healthier outlook on things in general.

I explained to her the idea of perception being projection. That is, people perceive you as the person you project - so if you project that you are a door mat, people will view you as one and further, treat you like one! Therefore, if you focus on the great aspects of your personality and character, people will see them and will treat you accordingly! This sounds like a simple task and it is, but the benefits of projecting positivity are phenomenal.

Once we had given Mrs L’s confidence a super-boost I heped her to let go of all the un-necessary negative emotion that she was feeling. I explained to her that she is in charge of her emotions and that only she can make herself feel a certain way. People can do all sorts of hurtful things, that is their choice, however, how you choose to feel about their actions is entirely down to you.

Our session enabled Mrs L to accept her situation, view it from a more positve perspective and re-gain her inner strength and confidence.

This was a fantastic session and I was thrilled to be able to help Mrs L. She is a truely remarkable woman and her children are very lucky to have her as their mother.

Hi there,

Last Friday the Manchester Evening News ran an article about the fantastic work that I have carried out with one of my patients. Sarah, from Poynton visited me as she was a self-confessed Chocoholic who could easily get through ‘5 bars of Galaxy chocolate a day’. I helped Sarah to realise that her chocolate fixation could be a symptom of her long history of depression. I then re-educated her mind which enabled to put things into realistic perspective.

This was a particularly satisfying session to be involved with as Sarah commented that the work we did together helped her to see that she could still eat chocolate over Easter but that she would now be able to gage what is an appropriate amount and not eat so much that she’d end up feeling sick like she used to.

As a result of the increased requests for help generated by the brilliant M.E.N article, I have decided to launch an on-line assesment facility. Basically, if you e-mail me your anxieties, fears, phobias or simply your general worries, I will examine your case individually and get back to you within a week. If I feel that you, like Sarah, could benefit from equipped4life techniques I will contact you to arrange a free 1hr assessment session.

Please send all queries to anna@equipped4life.co.uk and I will get back to you at my earliest convenience.

I’ll look forward to hearing from you.

If you are like so many, hearing the cries of “eat me” from the chocolate easter eggs sitting on the side in the kitchen.  We are sure you will be fascinated by the story of Sarah, an equipped4life client, who recently cracked her chocolate addiction.

If you are wondering if the equipped4life techniques could help you, we are always happy to chat and provide a no obligation assessment as to your suitability for equipped4life techniques.

Click here to read Sarah’s story!

At the start of February I worked with Mrs K from Cheadle Hulme. She approached me as she wanted to banish her chocolate-eating habit. She identified her chocolate indulgence as a habit once she started to notice the negative effects that it was having on her figure and skin and was worried that her habit and in turn the effects that it was having on her health would get worse in the build up to Easter when chocolate is sensationalised in the shops.

We had a fantastic session in which I explained to Mrs K the concept of meridian points. These points are similar to accupuncture points and are located under the nose and above the eyebrows to name but a couple of places. By simply tapping these points, cravings are reduced dramatically and are therefore, they are extremely beneficial tools in helping people quit habits.

Since our session Mrs K has only had minor cravings for chocolate but has controlled her yearnings but tapping her meridian points. In the six weeks since I last saw her, Mrs K has also lost a staggering 5lbs and has commented on the noticeable improvement in her complexion. This is a wonderful example of the knock on effects that equipped4life techinques can have - not only has Mrs K ridded herself of her chocolate addiction, but she has also lost weight and looks and feels much healthier!

She has further explained that she now feels confident that she will be able to make chocolate Easter cakes with her children and be able to resist the temptation to eat any of the mix whilst she cooks! To face an ex-habit in this way is a shining example that illustrates the Mrs K has truely conquered her habit. A fantastic result! Well Done.

The arrival of Easter singals the end of Lent. Many people use Lent as the perfect reason to rid themselves of habits or actions that they perceive as bad or negative. There is an extremely diverse range of things that people give up for lent ranging from stopping snacking chocolate or crisps and not watching certain TV programmmes to quitting smoking and avoiding unhealthy meals. Lent is a great source of inspiration that helps many people to change negative aspects of their lives. However, it could be perceived that the reason Lent is so successful in helping people kick certain habits is beacuse they are aware that they are only changing their behaviour for a short period of time and that once Easter arrives old habits can ‘legitimately’ be welcomed back with open arms.

 This is all well and good and can be extremely positive for certain people. Although, if you recognise that something in you life is worth changing, then surely it would be more beneficial either physically or mentally to stop it permanently?

The techniques that I use during an equipped4life session can enable you to do just that! Habits are extremely simple to break and it is also just as easy to ‘re-programme’ your brain with a healthier/ more compelling one. You created your habit and to a certain extent, the negative emotion that you have attached to it too, so let’s work together and make you feel and think in a more positive and productive way!

 Lent is a great way of identifying aspects of you life that you would like to change but equipped4life techniques can ensure that the positive change you want to make in your life will remain permanent.

 For a free 1 hour consultation, please call 08450 944 644 (local rates) and we can start making your life the one you want to lead.